Here’s the conclusion of my take on Prop 8. Read the first post for context, or else this post won’t make much sense to you.
Despite all I’ve written so far, I'm voting No on Prop 8. I'm not happy with where the situation is as a whole, and I would prefer "marriage" be a term reserved for what it has historically/traditionally been - a relationship between a man and a woman. I don't think it should be changed. A gay couple is not the same as a heterosexual couple. They are of the same value, they are no less human, they are equal. It is not discrimination to recognize that the relationships are of a different type. But as long as the government is in the "marriage" business and that word is an important part of guaranteeing the equal rights gays deserve, then I think gay marriage should be legalized. This is a problem Christians created for themselves by trying to make America into a "Christian nation" and trying to use the system to legitimize their way of living. Christians made this bed and now they need to sleep in it. By making marriage an issue of the state in a state governed by the Constitution, which guarantees equal rights for all, Christians have made marriage subject to the Constitution. There are lots of things bound up legally with “marriage” and it doesn’t appear that simply having “civil unions” will guarantee the exact same rights for gays, and that’s not right.
I think Constantine's declaration of Christianity as legitimate/official was one of the biggest blows to the message and movement of Jesus. Instead of continuing Jesus' radical anti-establishment movement of love, Christians fell in love with becoming the dominant power and abused that power. Today Christians are largely more concerned, I think, with maintaining power and making Christian culture the same as American culture - and that's a problem. Instead of being seen as people radically in favor of love and acceptance and the gospel, Christians are seen as agents of the old, agents of hatred and discrimination. It should not be this way. If years ago Christians had tried to find another way to secure equal rights for gays rather than criticize and hate on them, things might be different. But that's a fantasy land. I think Christians have sort of made their own beds on this one and it's time to sleep in it. By making marriage an issue of the state in a state governed by the Constitution I don't think we have any choice at this point but to allow gay marriage.
I hope I've explained and nuanced my view enough. This started as a post explaining why I was voting Yes on Prop 8 but as I thought about it and worked through my view I changed my mind. My guess is this will upset many of you on both sides - those of you who are strongly "Yes" will consider me a prodigal, and those who are strongly "No" will consider me only slightly better than a segregationist. But still, it's where I am.